This Mother’s Day meme spoke to me because it represents the relationship I have with my two son’s. Motherhood auto-corrected my path, which is weird because I decided early on that children weren’t my cup of tea. I even requested permanent prevention, Kaiser insurance denied my request based on age (under twenty-five) and the fact that I had no children. Apparently, they felt either of those in place assured I was a better decision maker (insert mic drop!)
Despite reality, and all the pain associated with motherhood, I’ve known for a long time that my sons brought a value to my life that didn’t exist before. My favorite line in the meme is the one that speaks to a Mother’s love crushing down remorselessly all that stands in its path. I rose to life’s challenges because of my children, and have no regrets!
My children inspired me to change who I was at my core AND my family tree. As devastating as it is for the afflicted and their families, even schizophrenia molded me into who I am today. I was forced to stop marinating in my comfort zone because there is no cure. Although it was the only option, or the easiest, I chose to start adulting and place myself in a better financial position to help my son.
Because of Donte’ and Stephen, I have fought the odds and accomplished the following
1. Achieved debt-free status over the course of seven years (working 2 and 3 jobs consecutively) and reached debt-free status in 2015
2. Start a coaching business to empower and set an example for other women in need of fine-tuning. Sometimes we believe where we came from determines our future and I’m proof it doesn’t
3. Graduated a son from Arizona State University with a degree in Engineering and NO STUDENT LOAN DEBT
4. Authored my first book. Renewal of the Mind: The Upside To Schizophrenia is still in the process of editing and I will complete it this year. Life keeps happening!
5. Founded a non-profit to support the Serious Mentally Ill (SMI) living independently with housing resources so that they remain self-sufficient and bypass the homelessness trap. I haven’t yet blogged about it, but have received Tax Exempt status and my website, DSquared4homeless is up! I’m still recovering from that fight and it will be my Monday blog!
I can say with absolute certainty that learning to build a website would definitely not have happened if my mental health challenged son wasn’t currently homeless, and I hope I never have to do it again! I’m a tech mess and what would probably take a person a few hours took a month, but I did it! It was seriously harder than giving birth, GOOD GRIEF. Out of time, off to enjoy my morning worship at Faith Christian Center.
Happy Mother’s Day to all!