Depression, Suicide and the Power of Hope-Tedtalk

Today’s share is a blueprint for navigating mental health. Answers to life’s challenges are everywhere, we only need to reach out for them!

How To Get Stuff Done When You Are Depressed/Tedtalk

Depression is the number 1 disability from young adults 15-24. Those numbers are only growing, which I believe has to do with the comparison trap incited by social media. We want to live like the Joneses, but we forget they only show the highlights of their lives, just like us. You don’t see the debt piling up as a result of vacations they couldn’t afford to take, or the unpaid car note as a result of the car lot seduction! Car salesman are highly skilled at talking us into purchases because we DESERVE them, even though we can’t AFFORD the maintenance! Because I’m a realist, learning how to function DESPITE depression seems like an unmet need in today’s culture. I personally can never have too many coping skills, so I hope you find the value that I did. Feel free to share your thoughts!

 

Starting a Sentence With Because Posted on July 10, 2014, by Chris Maynar

Writing a book is emotionally exhaustive and extremely challenging while adulting. In my mind, I saw myself carving out several hours per day to make this happen prior to signing the contract. How time-consuming and difficult can it be to share the facts of a life already lived? Especially when characters and dialog aren’t necessary.  I’ve learned writing an autobiography isn’t as easy as imagined. The reality is that several jobs, and the responsibility of dealing with the crises of life (as a single entity) when they occur, extended a one-year contract into three. My issues are never as simple as breaking a fingernail, or a flat tire. They always require major attention and mental energy that halts creativity for an uncomfortable period of time. I’ve abandoned the either/or thinking, that I can’t be Mrs. Fix It and write at the same time. Someone suggested I put the book on the shelf until life settles down, but quitting isn’t an option. Life has always been a fist fight so there’s no need to wait for the perfect time to cultivate an idea on my heart. Especially when I know the vision was downloaded for a reason. My sons story on mental illness needs to be heard for several reasons, so I’ll keep plugging along. I choose to stay away from the comparison trap and take the challenges as they come. I’ll get there when I get there. For the last two days, my mind has been in overtime on whether the writing police would consider starting a sentence with because legal or not. Finally annoyed with the amount of time spent on this brainfart, I googled the question. There were a variety of responses but this piece was pretty comical. In spite of wasted research, I decided to start my sentence with “because” simply because I want too, lol…

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I’m going to be honest with you, there are some grammar rules that I really don’t care about. Actually, there’s a lot of them. Really, most of them. That being said, sometimes it’s important to know and follow the rules, because other people care about them no matter how silly they are.

And so, today, we are going to examine one of the sillier rules of grammar: whether you can or cannot start a sentence with “because”. A lot of people will say that you can’t start a sentence with “because” and be using “proper” grammar. While it is true that starting a sentence with “because” is usually “incorrect”, it’s only because it results in an incomplete sentence. Thus, sometimes you can start a sentence with “because” and still be in the clear. Let’s dive right in, shall we?

“Because” is a subordinating conjunction. A subordinating conjunction is a word that joins two clauses, one of which is independent and one of which is dependent. I know that’s a lot of jargon, but basically what we’re looking at is this: we have a sentence with two parts, and “because” joins them together. The two parts have to be in the same sentence for the use of “because” to be “correct”. Otherwise, one of the clauses becomes a sentence fragment, which is a problem.

The reason you can’t usually start a sentence with “because” is because the sentence needs two parts for because to join together. Usually, “because” goes in between the two clauses, so if we start a sentence with “because” there is often only one clause in the sentence. Put simply, if “because” is in a sentence, the sentence needs two parts to be “correct”. Let’s look at an example.

We decided to go to the pool because it was hot outside.

The two clauses we are looking at are “We decided to go to the pool” and “it was hot outside”. “Because” links them together and makes them friends. Let’s look at what would happen if we were to split the sentence up into two.

We decided to go to the pool. Because it was hot outside.

Now that the two clauses are in different sentences, “because” can’t really join them together. The clauses can’t be friends and now they’re lonely, making the second sentence “incorrect.”

BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE. There is a circumstance in which we can start a sentence with “because” and not be violating any silly rules. If we start a clause with “because”, then insert a comma, and then a second clause, then both of the clauses are in the same sentence and everyone is safe. As an example:

Because it was hot outside, we decided to go to the pool.

Since both of the clauses are in the same sentence, they aren’t lonely and the sentence is technically “correct”.

So, there it is. Those are the circumstances under which you can and cannot start a sentence with because. It’s definitely a silly rule, and it’s not one that I would personally be strict about. That being said, I hope this was informative. If you want some more information, here are some resources that may be able to explain it a little better than I did:

 


4 thoughts on “Starting a Sentence With Because”

  1. It’s hard to take your grammar advice seriously, when your article is full of grammatical errors. It is not proper grammar to put commas and periods outside of quotation marks as you do repeatedly. For instance your, “If we start a clause with ‘because’, then…” should instead be “If we start a clause with ‘because,’ then…”

  2. Try this: 1) Purdue University “Online Writing Lab” (OWL) at https://owl.english.purdue.edu/. Impeccable; concise; correct English grammar (and you learn MLA, APA, Turabian paper formats for your college paper)
    2) Fowler & Aaron’s “The Little, Brown Handbook” (Pearson Publishing 10th – thru Present Edition–Perfection)
    3) W. Strunk’s “The Elements of Style” (Unlike the clown who wrote this article, English grammar is not “silly.”)
    4) Pick up ANY Merriam-Webster paper bound dictionary. English grammar “rules” and the proper use of “because” in a sentence is printed in virtually every copy within the first 22 pages, depending on which edition you get, or use. Avoid learning English grammar from anyone, student, professor, clown, psycho, et.al., who “claims” to teach you English grammar, and loads how much they loathe all those rules and virtually never uses them as an authority on English grammar.

  3. It is very interesting that you used “Since” and not “Because” in this sentence in the end of this article: [Since both of the clauses are in the same sentence, they aren’t lonely and the sentence is technically “correct”].

     

ISO of Non-Profit Advice

Though I’m still in the discovery phase of my mission, offering partial housing grants to the homeless/mentally ill population engaged in recovery, I’ve raised exactly enough funds (via Gofundme) to create my non-profit. My long-term goal is Independent Housing for those that need temporary shelter while getting back on their feet, but I will start with offering partial housing grants. That means the client will be required to have a job and consistently taking their meds. I’m not in the business of enabling. I’ve also finally come up with a name that feels right, D-Squared: Homes For The Homeless. The D squared came about because it represents the first and last name of my son.

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My nonprofit is in honor of him, my goal is advocacy and education. I don’t know whether my son is alive or not, but what I do know is that I’m tired of feeling helpless and hopeless, and NEED to do something. It doesn’t matter how large that population is, if I can help even 1, I will. There’s a huge stigma surrounding mental illness (which includes depression), and it’s so strong that even my friends/family aren’t open to sharing my link. It’s as if the words mental illness will jump off the link and become a permanent fixture in their lives. I get it, however, and my mission will continue in spite of others. I know I’ll meet supporters along with way because 1 in 5 adults are diagnosed with mental illness. That means most of us have a child, sibling or parent walking with a mental illness that is controlling their lives. I can’t wait to meet you!

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My challenge is the best way to proceed, Foundation or Non-Profit. There’s so much info out there, that I’ve decided to ask for help on social media from those who actually run a non-profit or have first-hand knowledge. The average quote for starting a non-profit in AZ is $1100, combining the tax-exempt status and processing of paperwork. Others have written they’ve completed their own non-profit paperwork for half the cost, but that COULD be state specific. I’ve also been told (and have read) hiring an attorney is needed, others say it isn’t necessary until I have enough funds for them to manage. I prefer the status of a 501c3 because that tax-exempt status will seduce major players as I grow, but I need to be sure I’m starting from a place of strength. I already have a strong board in place to assist my vision, which includes grant writers are friends walking with mental illness that are willing to share their perspective! Slowly but surely, I’ll get there!

I’m looking for knowledge on Foundation versus Non-Profit, and if not afraid, please my link!  (I’m NOT looking for someone to create the non-profit, I already have that). Sharing is caring!

https://www.gofundme.com/mental-illness-housing-initiative?fbclid=IwAR35cINfMWV3PL1iS8gfZXYLwrc235Fgab5S7k_c5rIfUETZ0Fd1OJFBI4U

Faith Christian Center’s Movies and Musings month!

Almost two years in, I’m still experiencing the honeymoon phase at my life-altering place of worship, Faith Christian Center. Their method of teaching is innovative and perfect for today’s short attention spans. The motto is to “change the way people see church”, and FCC meets you wherever you are. Our three services (8am,10am, 12pm) are streamed online (awesome so I can watch from work on Sunday or Wed night) and enjoyed from many states and several countries! Which is a true testament to how A-MA-ZING they are!

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February is movie month, which I’ve nicknamed movies and musings because a powerful word happens between each 10-minute snippet. If there in person, popcorn and drinks are provided for free as you enter the main sanctuary, thoughtfully decorated like a movie theater, lol. Our first phenomenal showing was Woodlawn, the second Collateral Beauty, which I’ve attached the link for. Our First Lady provided a powerful message (and testimony) between each scene related to Time, Death and Love. maxresdefault (58)

Message From Ericka Moore:

Need wisdom on how to respond to a death of a loved one, death of a dream, or loss of an opportunity? Ever been so hurt you thought you could never love again? Ever been frustrated with your life because it seems you’re in a race against time to see all of your potential realized? Then you need to watch my teaching from last night’s teaching at Faith Christian Center “At the Movies.”

https://fcc-phx.com/sermons/recent-sermons/?fbclid=IwAR23yOV5STwzcHWiNsMN-MsJ5CZBxEsMVd9KFGq11oQ6DF7TDzGsr3irU1o&jwsource=cl