Almost two years in, I’m still experiencing the honeymoon phase at my life-altering place of worship, Faith Christian Center. Their method of teaching is innovative and perfect for today’s short attention spans. The motto is to “change the way people see church”, and FCC meets you wherever you are. Our three services (8am,10am, 12pm) are streamed online (awesome so I can watch from work on Sunday or Wed night) and enjoyed from many states and several countries! Which is a true testament to how A-MA-ZING they are!
February is movie month, which I’ve nicknamed movies and musings because a powerful word happens between each 10-minute snippet. If there in person, popcorn and drinks are provided for free as you enter the main sanctuary, thoughtfully decorated like a movie theater, lol. Our first phenomenal showing was Woodlawn, the second Collateral Beauty, which I’ve attached the link for. Our First Lady provided a powerful message (and testimony) between each scene related to Time, Death and Love.
Message From Ericka Moore:
Need wisdom on how to respond to a death of a loved one, death of a dream, or loss of an opportunity? Ever been so hurt you thought you could never love again? Ever been frustrated with your life because it seems you’re in a race against time to see all of your potential realized? Then you need to watch my teaching from last night’s teaching at Faith Christian Center “At the Movies.”
A 20 something young lady posted this blog on Facebook. Age is relevant because her words are the wisdom of someone with much more life under their belt. I could have written this blog verbatim (except the too friendly comment), but not prior to my mid-forties. The journey to self-acceptance took YEARS for me and at 52, I’m still too much for some and I’m fine with that. As Dave Ramsey says, “you can’t pay your bills with other people’s opinions”. I believe the majority of people never come close to reaching this level of maturity. Living in the shadows seems like a contagious disease that requires a special serum for those not born with an immunity. Authenticity is not for the weak-minded. It requires courage because rejection is imminent, and a lifelong journey if you stay true to who you are as the world revolves around you.
Meet Danielle S.
I have spent my ENTIRE life being told I’m too much. Too loud, too talkative, too outgoing, too ambitious, too friendly (is that even a thing?). Too much. Too much. Too much. 🔈
Wanna know how I responded to it? I believed them. For most of my life, I lived as half. I dimmed my light so it wouldn’t shine too bright in other people’s eyes. I quieted my voice so it wouldn’t shake people and their insecurities. I lived as half of the person I truly am because so many people couldn’t handle the whole me. 🗯
And dang, did they miss out or what? 😂 I mean seriously, think about it, what a huge injustice to myself and the people who need all of me. Nelson Mandela once said, “as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” Is your own light shining? Are you giving people permission to let theirs shine? ✨
It took me a heck of a long while to be confident in all of me and all of who I am, and if you’re traveling down that same hard road, I encourage you to remember one thing – “You will be too much for some people. Those aren’t your people.” 👋🏼
The world needs ALL of you. Your people need all of you. 👉🏼 YOU need ALL of YOU. 👈🏼
Courage is something that everybody wants — an attribute of good character that makes us worthy of respect. From the Bible to fairy tales; ancient myths to Hollywood movies, our culture is rich with exemplary tales of bravery and self-sacrifice for the greater good. From the cowardly lion in The Wizard of Oz who finds the courage to face the witch to David battling Goliath in the Bible, to Star Wars and Harry Potter, children are raised on a diet of heroic and inspirational tales.
Yet courage is not just physical bravery. History books tell colorful tales of social activists, such as Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, who chose to speak out against injustice at great personal risk. Entrepreneurs such as Steve Jobs and Walt Disney, who took financial risks to follow their dreams and innovate are like modern-day knights, exemplifying the rewards and public accolades that courage can bring. There are different types of courage, ranging from physical strength and endurance to mental stamina and innovation. The below quotes demonstrate six different ways in which we define courage. Which are most relevant to you?
In the last section, I present an exercise to help you define and harness your own courage.
“Bran thought about it. ‘Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?’ ‘That is the only time a man can be brave,’ his father told him.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
Fear and courage are brothers. — Proverb
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela
There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid. — L.Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
Being terrified but going ahead and doing what must be done—that’s courage. The one who feels no fear is a fool, and the one who lets fear rule him is a coward. ― Piers Anthony
Courage is about doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared. Have the courage to act instead of react.” — Oliver Wendell Holmes
“Passion is what drives us crazy, what makes us do extraordinary things, to discover, to challenge ourselves. Passion is and should always be the heart of courage.” ― Midori Komatsu
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs, Stanford commencement speech, June 2005
To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself. — Soren Kierkegaard
“It takes courage … to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.” ― Marianne Williamson, “Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of ‘A Course in Miracles'”
When we are afraid we ought not to occupy ourselves with endeavoring to prove that there is no danger, but in strengthening ourselves to go on in spite of the danger. — Mark Rutherford
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)
Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them — Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow. — Mary Anne Radmacher
“Go back?” he thought. “No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!” So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit
“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” — Mark Twain
Sometimes standing against evil is more important than defeating it. The greatest heroes stand because it is right to do so, not because they believe they will walk away with their lives. Such selfless courage is a victory in itself ― N.D. Wilson, Dandelion Fire
Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes — Maggie Kuhn, Social Activist
From caring comes courage. — Lao Tzu
Anger is the prelude to courage. ― Eric Hoffer
Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. — Lord Chesterfield
“This world demands the qualities of youth; not a time of life but a state of mind, a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the life of ease.” ― Robert F. Kennedy
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. — Anais Nin
“There is no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bear witness that a man has the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.” — Frank
The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances. — Aristotle
Until the day of his death, no man can be sure of his courage. — Jean Anoulh
A man of courage is also full of faith. — Marcus Tullius Cicero
See article for courage exercise:
Right on time for Valentines Day, today’s share is a theory that societies definition of what love “looks” like, is a major reason for failed relationships today. Count me in as a recovered hopeless romantic who received their perspective on love from a Harlequin Romance novel during teenage years. As a young adult, I was influenced by chick flicks and upgraded to romance novels that now included sex scenes that lasted for an entire chapter, not just a paragraph. Marriage, however, was a sobering experience and occurred like a cold shower. I realized I had no idea of what love REALLY is, and learned much too late in life that loving ourselves first is the prerequisite for loving someone else. I went back to the drawing board!
Like most, I’ve had my share of life-hacks I prefer to have lived without, but admittedly inspired maturity that otherwise might not have happened. My autobiography, Renewal Of The Mind; The Upside To Schizophrenia, speaks to how my son’s diagnosis not only shifted his mindset but altered my mental makeup as well. My new approach to life was obtained by humbling myself in rooms of groups like Al-Anon, AA, self-improvement seminars, a cluttered library of self-help books, and years of psycho-speak. All of these represented support I didn’t think I needed until faced with something I couldn’t control. Years of digging deep lead to an excavation of my own internal decayed parts, a process as radical as the voices in his head.
Not only was my family tree pruned, but like second-hand smoke, my education bled into the outside world and seeped into the relationships around me. Some improved simply because I chose too, others were eliminated because they weren’t in my best interest. There were parts that didn’t change, however. I’m still extremely nerdy, preferring quiet seclusion to a crowd without a purpose (that interests me), speak too much out of nervous energy at times, and at age 52, still, prefer jeans and a sweatshirt to red carpet attire. I will always pass on high heels as I routinely trip in my mind simply watching other women wear them. Not a fan of pain, or of risking injury to my feet which will lead to my inability to have mountain therapy. I also see no need to spend money on shoes I can only wear five minutes at a time, entering social events, only to remove once seated. No thanks, lol….
Writing my story also lead to an unexpected end to a ten-year journey of self-discovery. There wasn’t a lot left to unpack based on years of support groups and a mentor of 11 years, but one area in my life still required fine-tuning. Interacting with the opposite sex is a hot topic I will elaborate more on in my book. Finding dignity and my purpose through writing was like hitting the lottery! While not even close to perfection, I’m definitely now a complete woman! I’ve learned it had nothing to do with who I am on the outside, but everything to do with who I am on the inside….
During my 21-day Facebook fast, our woman’s (ONLINE via Facebook and open to all) book club is reading Love Yourself To Life, available on Amazon. Thought I’d share as it’s a great reminder for women with a lot on their plate (even where there is no choice, as is my case) to pause periodically to practice self-care! My recent mini-meltdown was the gentle nudge needed to reinstate my self-care regimen. After the code red alert, I immediately transitioned into recovery mode, drowning out the noise and distractions of people and situations that had nothing to do with me.
I’ve learned it’s a waste of time (for me) to work on self-improvement and not follow the action steps of success. I’m either all the way in, or not at all. Sitting on the fence between both, what I call the LOVE TRIANGLE, is more of an energy drain than the other options because it’s always taking up headspace that could be used towards other goals. Our current read, Love Yourself To Life, suggested leaving my comfort zone for a new experience, preferable something I wouldn’t consider at all. Saturday I said yes to my first S’mores party. Outdoors and starting at my 7pm bedtime meant an automatic no in the past. At 52 years of age, I toasted (but didn’t taste) my first marshmallow and thoroughly enjoyed the experience without the calories! It was also AMAZING to experience the minds of other generations and cultures! I’m looking forward to being forced out of my comfort zone more often, and the value it will bring to my life!