Faith Christian Center’s Movies and Musings month!

Almost two years in, I’m still experiencing the honeymoon phase at my life-altering place of worship, Faith Christian Center. Their method of teaching is innovative and perfect for today’s short attention spans. The motto is to “change the way people see church”, and FCC meets you wherever you are. Our three services (8am,10am, 12pm) are streamed online (awesome so I can watch from work on Sunday or Wed night) and enjoyed from many states and several countries! Which is a true testament to how A-MA-ZING they are!

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February is movie month, which I’ve nicknamed movies and musings because a powerful word happens between each 10-minute snippet. If there in person, popcorn and drinks are provided for free as you enter the main sanctuary, thoughtfully decorated like a movie theater, lol. Our first phenomenal showing was Woodlawn, the second Collateral Beauty, which I’ve attached the link for. Our First Lady provided a powerful message (and testimony) between each scene related to Time, Death and Love. maxresdefault (58)

Message From Ericka Moore:

Need wisdom on how to respond to a death of a loved one, death of a dream, or loss of an opportunity? Ever been so hurt you thought you could never love again? Ever been frustrated with your life because it seems you’re in a race against time to see all of your potential realized? Then you need to watch my teaching from last night’s teaching at Faith Christian Center “At the Movies.”

https://fcc-phx.com/sermons/recent-sermons/?fbclid=IwAR23yOV5STwzcHWiNsMN-MsJ5CZBxEsMVd9KFGq11oQ6DF7TDzGsr3irU1o&jwsource=cl

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Life According To Danielle Sapore

 

A 20 something young lady posted this blog on Facebook. Age is relevant because her words are the wisdom of someone with much more life under their belt. I could have written this blog verbatim (except the too friendly comment), but not prior to my mid-forties. The journey to self-acceptance took YEARS for me and at 52, I’m still too much for some and I’m fine with that. As Dave Ramsey says, “you can’t pay your bills with other people’s opinions”. I believe the majority of people never come close to reaching this level of maturity.  Living in the shadows seems like a contagious disease that requires a special serum for those not born with an immunity. Authenticity is not for the weak-minded. It requires courage because rejection is imminent, and a lifelong journey if you stay true to who you are as the world revolves around you.


Meet Danielle S.

I have spent my ENTIRE life being told I’m too much. Too loud, too talkative, too outgoing, too ambitious, too friendly (is that even a thing?). Too much. Too much. Too much. 🔈

Wanna know how I responded to it? I believed them. For most of my life, I lived as half. I dimmed my light so it wouldn’t shine too bright in other people’s eyes. I quieted my voice so it wouldn’t shake people and their insecurities. I lived as half of the person I truly am because so many people couldn’t handle the whole me. 🗯

And dang, did they miss out or what? 😂 I mean seriously, think about it, what a huge injustice to myself and the people who need all of me. Nelson Mandela once said, “as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” Is your own light shining? Are you giving people permission to let theirs shine? 

It took me a heck of a long while to be confident in all of me and all of who I am, and if you’re traveling down that same hard road, I encourage you to remember one thing – “You will be too much for some people. Those aren’t your people.” 👋🏼

The world needs ALL of you. Your people need all of you. 👉🏼 YOU need ALL of YOU. 👈🏼

The Six Attributes of Courage; Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. The Mindful Self-Express (2012)..

Courage is something that everybody wants — an attribute of good character that makes us worthy of respect. From the Bible to fairy tales; ancient myths to Hollywood movies, our culture is rich with exemplary tales of bravery and self-sacrifice for the greater good. From the cowardly lion in The Wizard of Oz who finds the courage to face the witch to David battling Goliath in the Bible, to Star Wars and Harry Potter, children are raised on a diet of heroic and inspirational tales.

Yet courage is not just physical bravery. History books tell colorful tales of social activists, such as Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, who chose to speak out against injustice at great personal risk. Entrepreneurs such as Steve Jobs and Walt Disney, who took financial risks to follow their dreams and innovate are like modern-day knights, exemplifying the rewards and public accolades that courage can bring. There are different types of courage, ranging from physical strength and endurance to mental stamina and innovation. The below quotes demonstrate six different ways in which we define courage. Which are most relevant to you?

In the last section, I present an exercise to help you define and harness your own courage.

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1)  Feeling Fear Yet Choosing to Act

“Bran thought about it. ‘Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?’ ‘That is the only time a man can be brave,’ his father told him.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

Fear and courage are brothers. — Proverb

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela

There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid. — L.Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

Being terrified but going ahead and doing what must be done—that’s courage. The one who feels no fear is a fool, and the one who lets fear rule him is a coward. ― Piers Anthony

Courage is about doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared. Have the courage to act instead of react.” — Oliver Wendell Holmes

(2) Following Your Heart

“Passion is what drives us crazy, what makes us do extraordinary things, to discover, to challenge ourselves. Passion is and should always be the heart of courage.” ― Midori Komatsu

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs, Stanford commencement speech, June 2005

To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
 — Soren Kierkegaard

“It takes courage … to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.” ― Marianne Williamson, “Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of ‘A Course in Miracles'”

 

3) Persevering in the Face of Adversity

When we are afraid we ought not to occupy ourselves with endeavoring to prove that there is no danger, but in strengthening ourselves to go on in spite of the danger. — Mark Rutherford
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)

Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them — Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the   day that says I’ll try again tomorrow. — Mary Anne Radmacher

“Go back?” he thought. “No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!” So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit

“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” — Mark Twain

(4) Standing Up For What Is Right

Sometimes standing against evil is more important than defeating it. The greatest heroes stand because it is right to do so, not because they believe they will walk away with their lives. Such selfless courage is a victory in itself ― N.D. Wilson, Dandelion Fire

Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes — Maggie Kuhn, Social Activist

From caring comes courage. — Lao Tzu

Anger is the prelude to courage. ― Eric Hoffer

(5) Expanding Your Horizons; Letting Go of the Familiar

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. — Lord Chesterfield

“This world demands the qualities of youth; not a time of life but a state of mind, a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the life of ease.” ― Robert F. Kennedy

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. — Anais Nin

(6) Facing Suffering  With Dignity or Faith…

 “There is no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bear witness that a man has the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.” — Frank

The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances. — Aristotle

Until the day of his death, no man can be sure of his courage. — Jean Anoulh

A man of courage is also full of faith. — Marcus Tullius Cicero

See article for courage exercise:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201208/the-six-attributes-courage

 

On Love: Alain de Botton

Right on time for Valentines Day, today’s share is a theory that societies definition of what love “looks” like, is a major reason for failed relationships today. Count me in as a recovered hopeless romantic who received their perspective on love from a Harlequin Romance novel during teenage years. As a young adult, I was influenced by chick flicks and upgraded to romance novels that now included sex scenes that lasted for an entire chapter, not just a paragraph. Marriage, however, was a sobering experience and occurred like a cold shower. I realized I had no idea of what love REALLY is, and learned much too late in life that loving ourselves first is the prerequisite for loving someone else. I went back to the drawing board!

On Writer John Acuff

Jon Acuff is an American author of five books including Finish, Do Over, Start, Quitter, and Stuff Christians Like. Acuff also runs the blog StuffChristiansLike.net, which has over 3 million readers. I was first introduced to John, a prior Dave Ramsey personality, from the nosebleed section at a Smart Money event. Although I wasn’t close enough to touch, it was love at first sight. His quick wit, and ability to educate through laughter was an automatic attraction. I instantly connected with his message (and purchased his book START) of FINALLY getting started on the 45-year old vision born with, but never cultivated. I don’t know what that thing is that kills the dreams of mothers once we have kids. Maybe it’s maternal instinct, but I set every goal aside after an unplanned pregnancy during my junior year of college. It was as if the death of the original dream, FBI Agent, meant no other desire in my heart was possible. I interviewed for that position at Cal State Long Beach and took the next right action of turning it down. Relocation every two years wasn’t the best life a single parent could offer her child.  Thirty years later, it still hurts a little when I consider life with different choices. While doing the right thing doesn’t always feel good, it’s definitely good for the soul. I have no regrets.

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The good news for me is that the expired vision wasn’t the one God had for me. THAT vision is always there, ready to be manifested when and IF the hosts ever decides it’s time. I’m on John’s mailing list but so focused on my own writing that I missed these words of inspiration forwarded by a friend/supporter who felt it reminded her of me. I actually enjoyed it so much I decided to share it here where I imagine there are thousands of wannabe writers, like myself, that could use a word of encouragement!

I hope you enjoy and keep on keeping on, one word at a time. In spite of life’s distraction, WE’VE GOT THIS!

 

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From the desk of Jon Acuff……………………..

The Writer’s List: How it feels to write a book.

I don’t know when the fear of writing a new one goes away, but I can tell you it’s not during your 7th.

Will it sell? Will anyone like it? Will it be written in someone else’s voice and not my own? What is my voice? How come other authors are so much better at talking about their books? Am I tweeting enough? Should I do a better job of getting people to follow me on Instagram?

Am I listening to the most creative music possible? Would it be easier if I had a better soundtrack to this moment? If your eyelid is fluttering does that mean you’ve had too much coffee?

How do I give this book my all but not make it my identity because the pressure of that will crush my creativity? Who is this book for?

Is this a first world problem, complaining about how hard writing a book is? Are people who respond to your tweet with #FirstWorldProblem and #HumbleBrag the worst people? They are.

Why do I care so much about what other people think? Should I fix that before I write another book? Is that a fixable thing or just my personality? Is that because I’m a 7 on the enneagram?

Should I go on some sort of vision quest to solve every anxiety I have before I write this book? How long will that take? Do I have to go to Myanmar to do that? Why did I have to Google that country to spell it correctly? Am I even smart enough to write a book if I can’t spell “Myanmar?”

Am I the only one who doesn’t like the taste of coconut water? How come I like when other people post photos of their face online but I’m afraid to? Do I like to pretend it’s because I’m humble but it’s really because I’m insecure? This vision quest is going to take FOREVER.

When am I going to finish this book? I don’t have time to fix every emotional issue I have before I write it. What if I just started practicing mindfulness? Mindfulness is so hot right now. Do I own the right pants for mindfulness?

That’s but a sliver of what’s going on in my head when I try to focus and write. I hope your creative process is easier, but if it’s not. Welcome to the club.

Jon

P.S. This is one of the tools I use to rein in my creative process and actually get books done.

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