From The Mouth of Toure’ Roberts

I’m all about sharing the importance of fulfilling your purpose. Especially since I’ll be 53 in a few days and have been in the trap for twenty-years. Familiar paid the bills so I could take care of my kids, purpose took a back seat. In fact, I’ve only recently learned EVERYONE is born with a specific purpose. I’ve learned you aren’t in your calling when existing only for the weekend and hate Mondays.  That’s been me all my life, but now that I know my purpose, I’m intentionally working towards exiting stage left! Feel free to join me! If clarity is needed to pinpoint your sweet spot, I suggest subscribing to Ken Coleman podcasts and purchasing his book, Proximity Principle. Consider today’s share,  a life-changing page from Purpose Awakening, your call to action 🙂

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How To Declutter Your Mind Feb 20, 2019 / Hailey Reissman

If your brain is a heaving mess of work and life to-dos, find some focus with these straightforward steps from Ryder Carroll, creator of the Bullet Journal.

This post is part of TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series, each of which contains a piece of helpful advice from someone in the TED community. To see all the posts, go here.

Do you ever feel like your mind is one big, infinitely scrolling, incredibly cluttered to-do list? And are you always struggling to keep it updated, remember what’s on it, readjust its priorities, and delete what no longer serves you?

Brooklyn-based product designer Ryder Carroll suggests his solution to this problem: keeping a journal. “We have to externalize our thoughts to declutter our mind,” he says. “Holding thoughts in your mind is like trying to grasp water — it’s nearly impossible. But by writing down our thoughts, we can capture them clearly so we can work with them later.”

Growing up, Carroll was easily distracted, tugged in every direction by anything and everything. He says, “As a kid, my biggest problem was focusing on way too many things at the same time … As an adult, that’s just known as being busy. But being busy doesn’t mean you’re being productive. A lot of times, being busy just means you’re in a state of being functionally overwhelmed.”

Sound familiar?

What ended up helping Carroll cope was writing in a paper journal. With it, he says, he can easily see his goals, aspirations and concerns; map out ways to tackle them; and understand how he’s spending his time and his energy. Carroll is the creator of the Bullet Journal — a hyper-organized note-taking system you may have seen on social media — but he says you don’t have to follow that particular method to achieve peace-of-mind via pen (or pencil) and paper.

To start decluttering your mind of its endless to-do lists, Carroll recommends grabbing a notebook and pen and following these steps:

1. Create a mental inventory. Carroll says, “Write down the things that you need to do, the things that you should be doing, and the things that you want to do.”

2. Consider why you’re doing each of these things. “You don’t have to dive down some existential rabbit hole,” he says — just be mindful of why you’re doing the things you do. “We burden ourselves with unnecessary responsibilities all the time,” says Carroll. “We’re so distracted by all the things we should be doing and could be doing, but we completely forget to ask ourselves … ‘‘Do I even want to be doing those things?’”

3. For every item on your list, ask two questions: “Is it vital?” and “Does it matter to me or someone I love?” Carroll says, “If your answer is no to both of those, you’ve just identified a distraction, and you can cross it off your list. For every item you cross off your list, you’re becoming less and less distracted.”

4. Take what’s left, and divvy it up. By now, your inventory will consist of vital things (such as paying bills and shopping for groceries) and things that matter. Of the latter, Carroll recommends taking anything that matters but you haven’t done yet (or you’ve made little headway with) and breaking it into small, actionable projects.

For example, “If you want to learn to cook, don’t start by tackling an incredibly complicated meal for six people,” he says. “Even if you don’t make a total mess, the experience will have been so unpleasant that you run the risk of ruining your curiosity about cooking altogether.” Small projects, according to Carroll, “allow us to cultivate our curiosities and help them grow, maybe even help some of them blossom into full-fledged passions.” With cooking, begin by mastering a few simple, tested recipes that use ingredients and techniques you’re familiar with.

Each small project should involve “a clearly defined list of actions and tasks,” says Carroll, and they should take you less than a month to complete. He says, “If you estimate your project will take more than a month, that’s fine. Just break it into smaller projects,” he says. Your projects do not have to be tied to passions or major interests — it can be anything you want to explore further.

5. Spend time every day — even if it’s just five minutes — revising your inventory. “We have to dedicate ourselves to a habit of keeping that map updated with all the new things that we discover,” says Carroll. “If we don’t, our map becomes inaccurate, and we start to go off course. We drift, and all of a sudden, distractions start leaking back into our lives.” And when it turns out that something that mattered to you no longer does, just cross it out and let it go.

“Unfortunately, time is not a renewable resource,” says Carroll, author of The Bullet Journal Method. “It’s our responsibility to take the time to identify the things that interest us and figure out ways to pursue them.” Use your journal to note down your new interests, and come up with small projects to try them out. “This practice will provide you with you a lot of personal data,” he adds, “and that data can provide profound insights into your life: what have you tried, what have you not tried, what should you do more of, what’s working, what’s not.”

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WE HUMANS Books to help you answer big questions about yourself May 6, 2015 / Thu-Huong Ha (via Ted.com)

Why in the world did I do that? How can I do better? Chances are you’ve asked yourself these questions at least once today. To understand how your mind works and how you can improve your decision-making, explore these six psychology and behavioral economics books, each one recommended by a TED Talks speaker.


Why did I do that?

“Edward L. Deci is a legend in the study of motivation, and the 1996 book Why We Do What We Do offers a nice early introduction to his work.”

— Dan Pink, business writer (TED Talk: The puzzle of motivation)
See more of Dan Pink’s favorite books.


What should I do to be happier?

“In his book, Give and Take, Wharton professor Adam M Grant shows how giving at work can lead to greater happiness and success.”

Shawn Achor, positive psychologist advocate (TED Talk: The happy secret to better work)
See more of Shawn Achor’s favorite books.


How do I live in the moment?

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience illuminates the kind of life we should all be living. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi argues that one of the highest states of being is the state of flow — when you’re totally engaged in an activity, riding the narrow channel between boredom and anxiety. I talk about this book a lot, and try to live by it even more.”

Susan Cain, introvert champion (TED Talk: The power of introverts)
See more of Susan Cain’s favorite books.


How can I let myself be happy?

Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert is a fantastic explanation of why we are so bad at planning what will be good for us.”

Stefan Sagmeister, designer (TED Talk: The power of time off)
See more of Stefan Sagmeister’s favorite books.


How do I make everyday decisions better?

“In Thinking, Fast and Slow, Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman explores how behavioral economics and cognitive biases influence our everyday decision making.”

Alex Laskey, energy-saving enthusiast (TED Talk: How behavioral science can lower your energy bill)
See more of Alex Laskey’s favorite books.


Why do we lie?

The Liar in Your Life, by Robert Feldman is a great book about how and why deception is eroding our culture. This deception expert, also a University of Massachusetts psychology professor, authored a famous study that found strangers lie to each other about three times in the first ten minutes of meeting each other.”

Pamela Meyer, lying expert (TED Talk: How to spot a liar)
See more of Pamela Meyer’s favorite books.

 

Books to help you answer big questions about yourself