Happy Mother’s Day!

This Mother’s Day meme spoke to me because it represents the relationship I have with my two son’s. Motherhood auto-corrected my path, which is weird because I decided early on that children weren’t my cup of tea. I even requested permanent prevention, Kaiser insurance denied my request based on age (under twenty-five) and the fact that I had no children. Apparently, they felt either of those in place assured I was a better decision maker (insert mic drop!)

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Despite reality, and all the pain associated with motherhood, I’ve known for a long time that my sons brought a value to my life that didn’t exist before. My favorite line in the meme is the one that speaks to a Mother’s love crushing down remorselessly all that stands in its path. I rose to life’s challenges because of my children, and have no regrets!

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My children inspired me to change who I was at my core AND my family tree. As devastating as it is for the afflicted and their families, even schizophrenia molded me into who I am today. I was forced to stop marinating in my comfort zone because there is no cure. Although it was the only option, or the easiest, I chose to start adulting and place myself in a better financial position to help my son.

Because of Donte’ and Stephen, I have fought the odds and accomplished the following

1. Achieved debt-free status over the course of seven years (working 2 and 3 jobs consecutively) and reached debt-free status in 2015

2. Start a coaching business to empower and set an example for other women in need of fine-tuning. Sometimes we believe where we came from determines our future and I’m proof it doesn’t

3. Graduated a son from Arizona State University with a degree in Engineering and NO STUDENT LOAN DEBT

4. Authored my first book. Renewal of the Mind: The Upside To Schizophrenia is still in the process of editing and I will complete it this year. Life keeps happening!

5. Founded a non-profit to support the Serious Mentally Ill (SMI) living independently with housing resources so that they remain self-sufficient and bypass the homelessness trap. I haven’t yet blogged about it, but have received Tax Exempt status and my website, DSquared4homeless is up! I’m still recovering from that fight and it will be my Monday blog!

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I can say with absolute certainty that learning to build a website would definitely not have happened if my mental health challenged son wasn’t currently homeless, and I hope I never have to do it again! I’m a tech mess and what would probably take a person a few hours took a month, but I did it! It was seriously harder than giving birth, GOOD GRIEF. Out of time, off to enjoy my morning worship at Faith Christian Center.

Happy Mother’s Day to all!

 

 

 

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Nonprofit Opinion Request

I’m at the end phase of creating my nonprofit website, which is crazy in itself because I’m a tech mess! However, I’ve been known to vacate the comfort zone when I want something bad enough! Sure, it’s taken two weeks to put it together when it would have taken someone a few hours, but I’ve learned not to fall into the comparison trap! As a matter of fact, I’ve impressed myself in getting this far by raising funds on a Gofundme website! Once I hit financial freedom in 2015 (I drank the Dave Ramsey kool-aid!), I refused to go into debt ever again for any reason which required creative financing!

I’ve also learned when the vision is God’s (yes, I actually said the G word!), HE also sends the PRO-visions. I simply required the courage to start, and the discipline to keep working while waiting on my resources. It’s amazing how many dreams die simply because they “appeared” impossible, or because someone voiced a negative opinion. The reality is that their opinion really didn’t matter, your vision is only for you. My favorite Dave Ramsey quote is, “opinions are like armpits, everyone has one, and some of them stink!” 

However, I actually would love opinions tonight, if willing! 

Which tagline do you prefer and WHY?

1. Mental Health Reframed

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2. Mental Health Reimagined

 

 

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P.S. I’m also ISO a nonprofit mentor willing to guide my Board of Directors (experienced grant writers, both with Master’s Degrees) and I in the vision! We are aware of how huge the vision is, but don’t let that scare you! 

 

DSquared Homes For The Homeless-About Us

Today’s blog highlights my small but mighty Board of Directors! I’m always in search of families ready to fight back against the homelessness crisis in our mental health communities. Although I can feel the vibes from some I share my vision with, and aren’t receiving support from those I was sure I would, their disbelief isn’t my truth. I packed my first homeless kit in November of 2018 and still making weekly visits to my son’s car, where he’s lived since then. He was denied housing by Marc Community center because of a $40 income shortfall. I wasn’t allowed to contribute because I’m not the client (still smh). He deserves better and is the inspiration for my nonprofit venture and daily motivation! Life has always been a fistfight so this battle is nothing new, though slightly larger than I’m used too, lol…I’m acutely aware of the uphill battle, but my truth states every major change in history began with a vision of ONE.

I’m that ONE. While I know I can’t make major change alone, I ‘ll pick up supporters (from all states) on the uphill climb. How do I know? Statistical data. The numbers of forgotten voices are growing and some have family members, like myself, who are tired of watching our loved ones suffer. They will get pissed off into action (like I did) after realizing the government won’t come riding in like a knight in shining armor. I’ll be waiting. Change rests on the hands of communities and it’s simply a matter of time before someone is diagnosed with a condition or takes their life,  who is important enough to make someone to either donate to my cause or take action.

  • Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S.—43.8 million, or 18.5%—experiences mental illness in a given year.
  • Approximately 1 in 25 adults in the U.S.—9.8 million, or 4.0%—experiences a serious mental illness in a given year that substantially interferes with or limits one or more major life activities.2
  • Approximately 1 in 5 youth aged 13–18 (21.4%) experiences a severe mental disorder at some point during their life. For children aged 8–15, the estimate is 13%.3
  • 1.1% of adults in the U.S. live with schizophrenia.4
  • 2.6% of adults in the U.S. live with bipolar disorder.5
  • 6.9% of adults in the U.S.—16 million—had at least one major depressive episode in the past year.6
  • 18.1% of adults in the U.S. experienced an anxiety disorder such as posttraumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and specific phobias.7
  • Among the 20.2 million adults in the U.S. who experienced a substance use disorder, 50.5%—10.2 million adults—had a co-occurring mental illness.

 

 

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Juan Te Dailey-Founder
Advocate and mother of a homeless son diagnosed with Paranoid Schizophrenia in 2009. Army Veteran with a B.S. Degree in Criminal Justice from Cal State Long Beach. Life Coach Certification received from the Southwest Institute of the Healing Arts (SWIHA) and 19-year employee of Dignity Health. Supporting member of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) and certified instructor of their 12 Week Family to Family Program. Value is also added to the community as a Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University Coordinator and a major accomplishment is reaching financial freedom in 2015 (7 years of working three jobs!) and graduating a son from Arizona State University with an Engineering Degree minus the student loan debt! (shameless plug).

Rechelle H-President
Degree in Business Management and a master’s degree in Alcohol/Drug studies and Program Administration. An experienced grant writer with many years of prevention programming, life skills training, community organizing, and program development experience.

 Seema R.
Analyst for Dignity health with an MBA from the University Of New Mexico. Her grant writing experience is from the University of New Mexico and Phoenix Children’s Hospital. She has shared there are 78 million homeless in her home country, and 11 million are children. 

Jennifer O.-VP Of Misc. Stuff
Office Coordinator diagnosed as SMI (Seriously Mental Ill) in 2014 after living in a homeless shelter for 1.5 years. She brings a wealth of experience to our TEAM as both Advocate and Client in the Mental Health Community

 Erin L.- Secretary
Mother and Financial Peace University Coordinator who supports us from Temple, Texas

 

On Giving Up

Although I’ve hit many obstacles since deciding to create a nonprofit, I simply continue to reach out for relationship opportunities in spite of the crickets! My fighter mentality has paid off and yesterday was one of the most amazing days OF MY LIFE! I met with House Of Rep member Robert Meza who will schedule a meeting with the COO of a major player to strategize a plan. My vision is assisting the mentally challenged population with financial resources (housing related) when in crisis mode. My son has lived with Schizophrenia for 11 years. Once he stabilized on his medication (a fight on my end that took a few years!), he began working full time as a Case Manager for the Mental Health agency in charge at that time. While I worked extra to fund his initial move-in expenses (he was denied SSI), and paid off his car, he lived independently for five years. All he needed was financial support to get started, and he did the rest. Schizophrenia is cyclical, however, and he relapsed losing everything he owned, including the life he had worked so hard to rebuild! My son has been homeless for 6 months now, living from his car. He inspired my vision, and I won’t give up on IT, or my son regardless of the obstacles. Both are worth fighting for!

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Housing is redonkulous! He was placed on a state housing waiting list (several YEARS long), and $40.00 short of admission into a private housing program. I wasn’t allowed to contribute the funds even though I would have paid all remaining living expenses until he found another position. That wouldn’t have been cheap, but I don’t expect the state to take care of my child. As I packed his homeless kit in November, I wondered how many of the over 36,000 homeless individuals in Arizona are there because of a relapse, and could have remained independent if they simply had a little help. That’s my target client, and when my nonprofit is up and running (pending tax-exempt status), my plan will also assist with the growing homeless crises.

 

 

I then had my meeting with Godaddy, who will manage and create fundraisers on my website, once I create it. I need to reach the next level, however. While I’ve raised enough funds to create the nonprofit, which is pending tax-exempt status, I need funding to create my problem statement in the Liveplan business builder platform, a domain name, and website development. If you have considered donating to my campaign, now is a great time to help me reach the next level! The link is attached, as well as my Gofundme flyer with a link that can be typed into your browser if that’s easier. Please share!

 

https://www.gofundme.com/mental-illness-housing-nonprofit?member=1828554&fbclid=IwAR1XqY2ZL-2Tbs9SXlT2bc9b85a_dACKIqLGzVGzaZ5OCdWT5KEiBi_l9JA

 

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The New Face Of Mental Illness

 

More than once, I was asked about the word homelessness in the name of my Nonprofit. Although my target client is mentally ill, I intentionally disregarded that label in the name because of the associated stigma. The face of mental illness has changed, and expectations of what it LOOKS LIKE needs a major upgrade.

Recognize any of the “NEW FACES” of mental illness below? Any surprises?

 

Under the mental illness umbrella is Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar Disorders, Dementia, Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Schizophrenia, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Autism and Post Traumatic Stress Disorders (PTSD).


Support my vision at:
https://www.gofundme.com/mental-illness-housing-nonprofit?member=1828554&fbclid=IwAR2nviPTJWMtvlYhuOTDA2H7uBXPcq-9jDmg8M6c7FmbV5_UfNn1-FalmX4

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Does Size Matter?

Although only twenty donated to my campaign and the dedicated team less than 8, my nonprofit, DSquared Homes For The Homeless, is finally in creation! I ‘m extremely proud, but also a realist. The road ahead will be paved with more setbacks than wins as I fight an ideology surrounding mental illness that has been around since the days of Ronald Reagan. I have, however, suited up and put on my big girl panties! 19989268_1275573345882386_2791726709142629836_n

While supporters’ believe mental toughness is a superpower for me, I’ve simply learned marinating in situations nourishes feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. The minute I take action, no matter how small, my mindset immediately experiences a certain level of peace and this experience is no exception. The emotions behind my son living in his car are compounded by the fact that although debt-free, I can’t provide shelter while he cycles through this current season of psychosis. My home isn’t an option because he isn’t med compliant, and I’m not privy to the conversation he has with the entities in his head. I do know their influence can be detrimental to his future, and my safety. The upside is that recovery is possible with a committed support system and resources, which is the goal of my nonprofit. I finally decided my only option was to step out on faith since it doesn’t come with a price tag. A major takeaway from my journey to financial freedom is that problems can’t be solved by creating debt, which is why I didn’t mortgage my home to save my son.

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I wasn’t expecting ANY donations at all because neither mental illness nor homelessness is a priority for society.  Normally I research something TO DEATH, sometimes years before making a move! The plan this time was to take the first step and watch it unfold. That was totally outside of my comfort zone, but I wasn’t disappointed! Not only am I almost legal, but Godaddy has also reached out and offered their services to carve out a spot on the world-wide-web and my appointment is March 17th! Although I have a long way to go, at the end of the day,  size didn’t matter! izkc1roc-share-godaddy-email-marketing