A Good Woman via Dr.Myles Munroe

I’ll be fifty-three in nine days and can testify that being a woman has always been hard, and in my humble opinion, always will be. It’s especially challenging when raised in an environment of dysfunction because experience is considered status quo, healthy or unhealthy. Our self-worth is created by relationships modeled in our presence, and if violence is witnessed,  it’s a possibility that we accept it in adulthood. I say possible because Frank was an alcoholic, and I remember him laying hands on my mother when drinking. He wasn’t the only one. Although I didn’t make the best choices in partners, and sometimes repeated the same mistake twice, I drew the line at alcoholism and violence.


I wasn’t clear on what I needed (notice I didn’t say wanted), and it might have taken 40 years to figure out but a few boundaries in place helped! I’ve had a female mentor the last twelve years and she’s done a great job at keeping me from getting stuck on stupid!  I love that in this day and age, there are HEALTHY female role models readily available (you won’t hear her say, “I DON’T NEED A MAN), and education from various sources if egos are set aside. Check out this message from Myles Munroe, who does an excellent job at deciphering the role of a woman, as decided by God. Not by him, in case you’re wondering how a man could possibly tell a woman how to behave, lol.


A Journey of Self-Discovery

Like most, I’ve had my share of life-hacks I prefer to have lived without, but admittedly inspired maturity that otherwise might not have happened. My autobiography, Renewal Of The Mind; The Upside To Schizophrenia,  speaks to how my son’s diagnosis not only shifted his mindset but altered my mental makeup as well. My new approach to life was obtained by humbling myself in rooms of groups like Al-Anon, AA, self-improvement seminars, a cluttered library of self-help books, and years of psycho-speak. All of these represented support I didn’t think I needed until faced with something I couldn’t control. Years of digging deep lead to an excavation of my own internal decayed parts, a process as radical as the voices in his head.


Not only was my family tree pruned, but like second-hand smoke, my education bled into the outside world and seeped into the relationships around me. Some improved simply because I chose too, others were eliminated because they weren’t in my best interest. There were parts that didn’t change, however. I’m still extremely nerdy, preferring quiet seclusion to a crowd without a purpose (that interests me), speak too much out of nervous energy at times, and at age 52, still, prefer jeans and a sweatshirt to red carpet attire.  I will always pass on high heels as I routinely trip in my mind simply watching other women wear them. Not a fan of pain, or of risking injury to my feet which will lead to my inability to have mountain therapy. I also see no need to spend money on shoes I can only wear five minutes at a time, entering social events, only to remove once seated. No thanks, lol….


Writing my story also lead to an unexpected end to a ten-year journey of self-discovery. There wasn’t a lot left to unpack based on years of support groups and a mentor of 11 years, but one area in my life still required fine-tuning. Interacting with the opposite sex is a hot topic I will elaborate more on in my book. Finding dignity and my purpose through writing was like hitting the lottery!  While not even close to perfection, I’m definitely now a complete woman! I’ve learned it had nothing to do with who I am on the outside, but everything to do with who I am on the inside….

The Power Of Women

Of all the research digested on how to cultivate successful relationships, Dr. Munroe is my favorite lecturer. He pinpoints the crisis, shares its point of origin, dumbs it down and then brings it home with a realistic, comprehensive plan of action! We are never left in limbo trying to solve a problem we didn’t know we had until he figured it out!

Today’s discussion focuses on the power of the woman (yesterdays focus was on the crises of men).  According to Dr. Munroe women, just like men, face their own set of challenges as a result of WWII.  She struggles trying to survive in a 21st Century man’s world while attempting to be everything for everyone at the same time. Her physical assault is a byproduct of his lack of purpose experienced from her entry into the workforce. He returned from the war to find she not only had his job but she also no longer needed him for survival. There was no meal waiting in a spotless home as he’d grown accustomed too. WWII was the start of a cold war between men and women!

After watching the presentation, if you are willing, please share your thoughts!