A “WORD” FROM DEVON ON EXPECTATIONS!

Today’s message is from December 2018 but will always be relevant as long as unspoken expectations dominate relationships. Devon has a gift of teaching the word of God and keeping it REAL at the same time! If resentments have invaded your heart against parents, children, careers and even booty calls, lol…..No area is off limits when it comes to not allowing your past disappointments to lower your future expectations”!

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D² Homes For The Homeless Final Logo!

Sharing the final look for my nonprofit! Although no one from the professional arena is stepping up, the support of friends with belief in not only me but my vision is definitely overwhelming! My BFF, a graphic artist, put together 12 beautiful designs to choose from, and this is my final answer! Logo creation is just in time for my appointment with Godaddy for website development, next Sunday! Despite the uphill battle, I’m focused on the possibilities and the people who ARE willing to bring my vision to life. The truth is, I’m not surprised by the deafening sound of crickets that are a daily occurrence as I try to create relationship opportunities. I’m not yet on anyone’s radar, just a pissed off mother. In reality, there is NOTHING more powerful! This is a great place for a vote of confidence to others waiting for the perfect timing to start. Step out on faith, and if it’s the right move, you will be joined. Who actually steps up just might surprise you, as in my case. I’m neither polished, nor perfect, but definitely passionate and gaining supporters on the uphill journey simply because they believe in ME. Your vision isn’t about you, it’s about who you were called to help.  Get started, their future depends on your courage!

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MY WHY: Housing for the mentally ill is an unmet need and will remain so until someone decides to START a movement! All five foot two and a half inches of me have stepped into those size 12 shoes! While there are definitely programs that advocate in place, and NAMI support groups have kept me sane for the last 11 years while dealing with the voices in my sons head, there needs to be a specific focus on housing. The average SSI check for the mentally ill specifically, IF the afflicted has even been found eligible (my son was denied though he was awarded the SMI label of  Paranoid Schizophrenia), is in the mid-seven hundreds which is exactly the cost of most basic housing for a single flat. Nothing remains for utilities, food, transportation (for work) and the basic necessities of daily living. The most depressing part of the housing crisis is that although it can be cyclical, maintaining recovery is possible with resources, which is positive for the entire community. At the rate homelessness is exploding, it will eventually be delivered to our front door just from the sheer lack of space.  While we are distracted by social media and building a wall to keep people out, why don’t we begin to strengthen our own communities INSIDE the wall so that desperation doesn’t transform our society into something from a horror flick! I already feel like I’m living in a reality show, but it’s better than living a nightmare!

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The New Face Of Mental Illness

 

More than once, I was asked about the word homelessness in the name of my Nonprofit. Although my target client is mentally ill, I intentionally disregarded that label in the name because of the associated stigma. The face of mental illness has changed, and expectations of what it LOOKS LIKE needs a major upgrade.

Recognize any of the “NEW FACES” of mental illness below? Any surprises?

 

Under the mental illness umbrella is Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar Disorders, Dementia, Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Schizophrenia, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Autism and Post Traumatic Stress Disorders (PTSD).


Support my vision at:
https://www.gofundme.com/mental-illness-housing-nonprofit?member=1828554&fbclid=IwAR2nviPTJWMtvlYhuOTDA2H7uBXPcq-9jDmg8M6c7FmbV5_UfNn1-FalmX4

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More Truth From DeVon Franklin

Last year I knew I had leveled up when I walked away from a relationship leading to marriage. This left a mark on my soul because it was the first time I intentionally dated from a place of strength, creating a realistic (for me) list, and he met every category. THAT alone was a huge undertaking based on must-haves that were reconstructed as I educated myself on all things dating. The absence of sex allowed me to see into his soul and that he really was a true man of God, not a unicorn! THEY DO EXIST! The clarity made it harder to let go because finding him was like finding a four-leaf clover! Although it was emotional because there was a soul tie that didn’t come from sex, my departure didn’t occur in a fit of rage. It was more of a quiet confidence. He was the right person, wrong time. OUCH!

What worked for me was figuring out that my “he” needed to:

  1. Be in the presence of God (prior to meeting me, I shouldn’t have to drag him there),
  2. Have a vision (for his future),
  3. A job (as a platform TO the vision & to pay bills!),
  4. His own place
  5. The ability to lead the relationship.

    Now, those are just MY qualifications, which I know doesn’t guarantee a successful relationship. However, sticking with the values most important to me starts us off with a strong foundation. It’s not like a Build A Bear workshop where I create the perfect man from bits and pieces (tried a few times, it didn’t work!) of what he wasn’t already equipped with. A close friend recently commented that I won’t find a man in the church, that is willing to WAIT. I must admit it WILL take an act of God, but I’ve already experienced the trauma from making decisions based on emotion. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. Yeah, I’ve learned patience is definitely a virtue!

Today’s POWERFUL share is on the movement by Devon Franklin to teach the importance of discipline in dating. Although I’ve learned these lessons the hard way, the books will be great research, and an anchor to reality in case a life-raft is needed.  ENJOY!

 

Emotional First Aid/Guy Winch, Ph.D.

While I believe successful dating is a learned process, I think successful living in today’s world is as well. New ways of thinking from each consecutive generation seem to create a new strain of crises. Some coping skills are learned simply by living our choices, but there is no manual for these never before experienced problems.  It might not be necessary to conform to every change, but adapting might be needed for sanity!  I often wonder if the lack of a blueprint for the increasing manmade pressures is one of the reasons for the increase in depression. Our reactions to life’s emergencies, usually based on emotions, only compound the situation. Learning to recover from disappointments and failures is a necessary part of mental health. Today’s share addresses emotional hygiene, and backs it up with dumbed down action steps! This is good stuff, take notes!

Starting a Sentence With Because Posted on July 10, 2014, by Chris Maynar

Writing a book is emotionally exhaustive and extremely challenging while adulting. In my mind, I saw myself carving out several hours per day to make this happen prior to signing the contract. How time-consuming and difficult can it be to share the facts of a life already lived? Especially when characters and dialog aren’t necessary.  I’ve learned writing an autobiography isn’t as easy as imagined. The reality is that several jobs, and the responsibility of dealing with the crises of life (as a single entity) when they occur, extended a one-year contract into three. My issues are never as simple as breaking a fingernail, or a flat tire. They always require major attention and mental energy that halts creativity for an uncomfortable period of time. I’ve abandoned the either/or thinking, that I can’t be Mrs. Fix It and write at the same time. Someone suggested I put the book on the shelf until life settles down, but quitting isn’t an option. Life has always been a fist fight so there’s no need to wait for the perfect time to cultivate an idea on my heart. Especially when I know the vision was downloaded for a reason. My sons story on mental illness needs to be heard for several reasons, so I’ll keep plugging along. I choose to stay away from the comparison trap and take the challenges as they come. I’ll get there when I get there. For the last two days, my mind has been in overtime on whether the writing police would consider starting a sentence with because legal or not. Finally annoyed with the amount of time spent on this brainfart, I googled the question. There were a variety of responses but this piece was pretty comical. In spite of wasted research, I decided to start my sentence with “because” simply because I want too, lol…

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I’m going to be honest with you, there are some grammar rules that I really don’t care about. Actually, there’s a lot of them. Really, most of them. That being said, sometimes it’s important to know and follow the rules, because other people care about them no matter how silly they are.

And so, today, we are going to examine one of the sillier rules of grammar: whether you can or cannot start a sentence with “because”. A lot of people will say that you can’t start a sentence with “because” and be using “proper” grammar. While it is true that starting a sentence with “because” is usually “incorrect”, it’s only because it results in an incomplete sentence. Thus, sometimes you can start a sentence with “because” and still be in the clear. Let’s dive right in, shall we?

“Because” is a subordinating conjunction. A subordinating conjunction is a word that joins two clauses, one of which is independent and one of which is dependent. I know that’s a lot of jargon, but basically what we’re looking at is this: we have a sentence with two parts, and “because” joins them together. The two parts have to be in the same sentence for the use of “because” to be “correct”. Otherwise, one of the clauses becomes a sentence fragment, which is a problem.

The reason you can’t usually start a sentence with “because” is because the sentence needs two parts for because to join together. Usually, “because” goes in between the two clauses, so if we start a sentence with “because” there is often only one clause in the sentence. Put simply, if “because” is in a sentence, the sentence needs two parts to be “correct”. Let’s look at an example.

We decided to go to the pool because it was hot outside.

The two clauses we are looking at are “We decided to go to the pool” and “it was hot outside”. “Because” links them together and makes them friends. Let’s look at what would happen if we were to split the sentence up into two.

We decided to go to the pool. Because it was hot outside.

Now that the two clauses are in different sentences, “because” can’t really join them together. The clauses can’t be friends and now they’re lonely, making the second sentence “incorrect.”

BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE. There is a circumstance in which we can start a sentence with “because” and not be violating any silly rules. If we start a clause with “because”, then insert a comma, and then a second clause, then both of the clauses are in the same sentence and everyone is safe. As an example:

Because it was hot outside, we decided to go to the pool.

Since both of the clauses are in the same sentence, they aren’t lonely and the sentence is technically “correct”.

So, there it is. Those are the circumstances under which you can and cannot start a sentence with because. It’s definitely a silly rule, and it’s not one that I would personally be strict about. That being said, I hope this was informative. If you want some more information, here are some resources that may be able to explain it a little better than I did:

 


4 thoughts on “Starting a Sentence With Because”

  1. It’s hard to take your grammar advice seriously, when your article is full of grammatical errors. It is not proper grammar to put commas and periods outside of quotation marks as you do repeatedly. For instance your, “If we start a clause with ‘because’, then…” should instead be “If we start a clause with ‘because,’ then…”

  2. Try this: 1) Purdue University “Online Writing Lab” (OWL) at https://owl.english.purdue.edu/. Impeccable; concise; correct English grammar (and you learn MLA, APA, Turabian paper formats for your college paper)
    2) Fowler & Aaron’s “The Little, Brown Handbook” (Pearson Publishing 10th – thru Present Edition–Perfection)
    3) W. Strunk’s “The Elements of Style” (Unlike the clown who wrote this article, English grammar is not “silly.”)
    4) Pick up ANY Merriam-Webster paper bound dictionary. English grammar “rules” and the proper use of “because” in a sentence is printed in virtually every copy within the first 22 pages, depending on which edition you get, or use. Avoid learning English grammar from anyone, student, professor, clown, psycho, et.al., who “claims” to teach you English grammar, and loads how much they loathe all those rules and virtually never uses them as an authority on English grammar.

  3. It is very interesting that you used “Since” and not “Because” in this sentence in the end of this article: [Since both of the clauses are in the same sentence, they aren’t lonely and the sentence is technically “correct”].